Father figure dating
It’s very common for a woman to say, “Oh, he’s too nice” about a potential partner, which is a sign that they had an unavailable father, either emotionally or physically.’ And while the thought of swiping right on a guy who’s the spitting image of your dad might make you shudder, sexual imprinting – where women actively, if subconsciously, seek out a mate resembling their father – is surprisingly common.
A 2008 study from the University of Pécs in Hungary found significant facial correlations between women’s long-term partners and their dads, especially when it came to proportions in the nose and eye area.
Comparing pictures of Brad Pitt with Angelina Jolie’s dad Jon Voight, Norman Cook with Zoë Ball’s dad, Johnny, or Nigella Lawson’s ex Charles Saatchi with her father Nigel, it’s easy to spot this phenomenon at work.
Previous studies have shown that women use their primary father figure as a template for picking a mate even if they are adopted, suggesting that sexual imprinting is led by experience and not simply genetic.* While I can’t say that any of my boyfriends have physically resembled my dad – balding and bifocals?
I want to make sure you undestand how I set this thing up. Paul is talking about an "emotional fire." I guess you could call it a "fire of passion." Touching in an attempt to get your girlfriend or boyfriend "in the mood" isn't acceptable Christian behavior. The world has no problem starting "fires of passion." But we aren't like the world.
Casual contact and a helping hand are still allowed. That's not the kind of fire Paul is talking about here. Just keep in mind, God's Word tells us to avoid intimate touching until we find that special marriage partner God has led us to.
It’s a hackneyed therapy joke that all women end up with a version of their fathers.
Um, no thanks – I can recognise that I’m drawn to guys who are similar to him, often in surprising ways.
Growing up, I idolised my father, but his alcoholism and my parents’ messy divorce made me determined not to end up with anyone remotely like him.
Carl Jung called it the Electra complex – a latent desire to kill our mothers and possess our fathers – declaring it a stage of development every girl goes through between three and six years old.
But while that might sound like a slightly creepy cliché, for many of us, a quick tally of our exes will bring up some uncomfortable similarities with the first man in our lives – whether you were aware of it at the time or not.